Be Kind to Yourself
One of the great secrets to success is taking action. If you have an inspiring goal, the first step is a clear conscious decision. What are you going to do? Do it. Take that first step and keep moving. A goal doesn't lie; it is an idea with a plan.
It's a goal, not a dream; it's an objective, not a wish; and it's a necessity, not a fancy idea. You may wake up one morning and not have a goal but, instead, an idea, or a wish. What's important here is the objective. A goal is not a goal unless it is a logical progression of the goal you have.
So, for instance, if your goal is to quit smoking, don't think about the benefits of never smoking, think about the benefits of never smoking and don't stop there. Think about and visualize your body covered in fine lines from nicotine damage. Imagine how your hands feel and smell and imagine how good it feels to clean your teeth. Imagine that you get to spend 30 minutes every day brushing your teeth and imagine you can just as easily spend 30 minutes relaxing or smoking, imagine that your entire life can be spent smoking and the rest of the time, working.
This is how you get to the step of never smoking and remember to take that first step. You have taken a conscious decision.
Do it, take that first step, and continue moving. A goal doesn't lie, it is a clear objective with a plan. In this case, do it and the steps are clear.
You have taken a conscious decision
You have taken a conscious decision, you have taken action, and you have continued moving. You now need to align your goal with your true self. If you have taken the conscious decision, the next step is to go deep and align yourself with your objective. What's important here is the objective, you need to make sure it is in alignment with who you are at your very core and this takes time.
If you don't believe that you are a smoker, a compulsive smoker, an "addict" of some sort then your objective doesn't lie within the realm of what you can "think" about it. It has to align with your being or, as I mentioned, we lose sight of our goals and just give up on them. And, then, because we give up, the rewards are not worth the effort. To avoid this, it is important to be honest with yourself and your mind. Think about what you think you are. Be honest with yourself. Think about where you smoke or drink regularly and compare it to the space you want to occupy. Take note of the differences. If the differences are greater than the differences between where you are and where you want to be, then your goal doesn't lie within what you can "think" about it. It must lie within what you feel about it. If the feelings are greater than the thoughts, your goal isn't "about" the thoughts, it's "about" the feelings. Your thoughts are "about" the thoughts, what we mean by "about" is that the thoughts are connected to the thoughts, but not in the way we think they are connected to the feelings. This is important because, when we experience some thoughts as being about what we think we "think" we tend to make decisions based on the thoughts and not on the feelings. As the thoughts become about the feelings, we let go of our thoughts because, to us, they no longer appear important.
Override it successfully
So now, what do you think is the most important thing to do in order for you to get to the goal you have set? Again, this is a bit of a subjective question, but you would probably agree it's clear. In the end, you need to think about what you want and how you can experience the feelings you want to experience to get there. Once the inner work is complete, your inner dialogue will guide you through the steps that will lead you to the goal you have set.
For a more detailed view, here's a passage from the book "Think and Grow Rich", pp. 125-126
125. The subconscious mind can only control the thoughts it holds responsible for its current activities. The more thoughts that can be held responsible for an individual's future actions, the more effective the subconscious mind becomes at carrying out its commands. Whenever two individuals interact, one thinks and the other feels, but neither side takes the other seriously. The result is that each end up acting in ways contrary to their intent. If we can override the subconscious mind's ability to hold responsible thoughts, we thereby override the unconscious mind's ability to perform its function. Override it successfully and we override the conscious mind's responsibility for our actions.
126. By now, it's obvious that the subconscious mind will continue to hold responsibility for our actions only so long as we continue to feel responsible for our actions. Whenever we decide to act differently than we have acted in the past, the subconscious mind will have no choice but to release our responsibilities. That's the power of the "feel good" attitude. That's the power of our feelings as being more important than our thoughts.
If we're going to be successful in any area, it's important to have a sound foundation upon which to build. What is your foundation? Do you have a foundation of love? Then do whatever you need to do to ensure that you will be able to overcome feelings of frustration, overwhelm, anxiety, overwhelm and become calm before you set off towards your goals.
When you can feel calm, your subconscious mind will have less incentive to hold responsible thoughts. If you're going to be successful in anything, do it with a foundation of calm.
Be kind to yourself. Be kind to your subconscious mind, which is trying to help you with whatever you need to do to reach your goals. When you're calm, the decisions it makes will be more motivated, driven and successful. The more calm you're in, the less that you'll have to worry about the decisions that your conscious mind makes.
If you can get control over your thoughts, the rest will follow. Be calm and your goals will come to you, without a lot of effort on your part.